This section is from the book "Couple Dynamics: A Guide to Sexual/Emotional Enhancement", by Dr. Sean Haldane. Also available from Amazon: Couple Dynamics: A Guide to Sexual/Emotional Enhancement.
You should be careful to read the fuller versions of these explorations in the relevant chapters before attempting to use these summaries. Once you are familiar with the purpose, direction, and details of the complete explorations, you can use these summaries as a quick reminder of the next step during working sessions.
First Session: Making Contact (Chapter 2)
Observation and Experience (page 15)
1:1 Ask the explorer to lie on their back, knees up, feet flat.
1:2 Ask how they feel.
1:3 Observe the eyes.
1:4 Ask the explorer to look at you for a few seconds, then look away. Alternate a few times.
1:5 Share your impressions of the explorer's eyes: what you see; what you sense.
1:6 Observe the position of the head.
1:7 Observe the face: Shape? Mask? Expression?
1:8 Share impressions.
1:9 Observe the body: Inflated? Deflated? Shape? Disparity?
1:10 Share impressions.
1:11 Observe breathing: Chest moving? Abdomen moving? Depth, speed, pauses.
1:12 Share impressions.
1:13 Observe pelvis and legs: Pulled back? Pulled forward? Loose? Tight? Still? Moving?
1:14 Share impressions.
1:15 Touch the musculature, head to feet. Look for skin color and temperature. Feel for flexibility of scalp, forehead, cheeks, neck, shoulders, chest (push down gently), upper abdomen, lower abdomen, thighs, knees, calves, feet.
1:16 Ask how the explorer feels.
1:17 Share impressions.
Moving and Breathing Changes (page 21)
2:1 Ask the explorer to close the eyes and keep them closed, breathe in through the mouth. Position as in 1:1 above. Ask them to breathe out immediately and fully with an aaaah sound and to pause before breathing in again.
2:2 Put one hand on the explorer's forehead, the other hand under the neck; tilt head slightly back.
2:3 Squeeze cheeks gently to open mouth wide; press chin gently downward.
2:4 Press gently down on chest with each out-breath and encourage the explorer to let the chest down.
2:5 Pause after about 12 pushes and ask the explorer to keep breathing fully out. Observe. Ask them to open the eyes. Make eye contact. Briefly, how do they feel? Ask them to close the eyes again.
2:6 Slide your left hand under the small of the back, put right hand on the abdomen between the ribs and the navel. Ask the explorer to breathe in fully under your right hand. Ask them to relax into your hand under the back every time they breathe out. Make sure they breathe out fully. Continue for about ten breaths.
2:7 Withdraw hand from under the back. Move right hand to lower abdomen between navel and pubis. Ask the explorer to breathe in fully under this hand.
2:8 Observe the breathing and encourage the explorer to fill with breath from the abdomen up and to empty the breath from the chest down.
2:9 Ask the explorer to move the knees in and out, slowly: open to the widest extent, close until the knees touch. Ask them to synchronize this movement with their breathing. Ask them to find the position where the legs are most shaky (approximately 45°) and not to stop the vibration.
2:10 Ask the explorer to open the eyes and look at you while breathing fully out.
2:11 Ask them to describe their emotions and bodily sensations.
2:12 Share impressions. Be in contact before stopping.
Second Session: Exploring Emotions (Chapter 3)
Fear (page 36)
1:1 Ask the explorer to breathe out with an audi ble sigh, establish a breathing rhythm with the emphasis on the out-breath.
1:2 Ask them to track your finger. Move it freely, about twelve inches above the eyes for about a minute. (If the eyes are immobile, do not continue with this fear exploration.)
1:3 Ask the explorer to imitate fear.
1:4 Ask them to relax again.
1:5 Have them imitate freezing fear: open the eyes wide, breathe in sharply, raise the eyebrows, breathe into the upper chest with a gasp; look at the ceiling; hold the breath for a moment.
1:6 Ask them, while holding the breath, to either press their hands back into the mat or to raise the hands with fingers open and palms outward.
1:7 Ask the explorer to make a sound, but not to force it.
1:8 Ask them to show you fear, to look at your eyes. Open your own eyes wide.
1:9 Ask them to push both palms upward against one of your hands; to look at you and to breathe in and out exaggeratedly.
1:10 If this produces panic, have the explorer show it in their eyes, first looking at the ceiling, then looking at you.
To sum up, you ask the explorer to open the eyes wide—raise the eyebrows—open the mouth wide—gasp sharply into the upper chest—freeze—push against your hand-make a sound—breathe fast and high—show fear in eyes looking at ceiling—show fear in eyes looking at you.
1:11 Ask the explorer to relax after nine or ten breaths. Be reassuring. Hold their hand if necessary.
1:12 Discuss if the explorer "flashed" on any particular incident.
1:13 Discuss the exploration in general.
Anger (page 36)
2:1 Ask the explorer to imitate anger.
2:2 Emphasize that no-one is going to get carried away. Emphasize two basic rules: explorer stays on the mat at all times; the explorer does not touch the guide.
2:3 Ask the explorer to close the eyes tight and breathe out sharply, clenching the fists each time they breathe out and making a sharp sound.
2:4 Ask them to relax this position each time they breathe in. Continue for some minutes.
2:5 Take a break, without discussion.
2:6 Give the explorer a towel to hold in both hands, hands close together, touching, twisting from opposite directions. Tell them to twist hard.
2:7 At the same time, ask the explorer to breathe out and make a sound.
2:8 Ask them to frown and focus the eyes on the towel, to knot the brows.
2:9 Ask them to stick the jaw forward while still making a sound.
To sum up, on each out-breath the explorer will narrowly focus the eyes—knot the brow in a frown—stick the jaw forward—make a loud sound (growl or roar)—twist hard on the towel.
2:10 After nine or ten breaths, take a break.
2:11 Variation: ask the explorer to put the towel aside and make fists; then to breathe in fully while raising the fists high in the air and to hold the breath while clenching the fists tightly for ten seconds or so. Then release the breath, thump both fists down on the mat, and yell: "No!" Make sure the explorer's head is back on the mat and eyes focused on a point on the ceiling.
2:12 Ask the explorer to show anger in the eyes, directed to your eyes; to shout "I hate him (her)!" or, "I've had enough!"
2:13 Pause.
2:14 Ask the explorer to stick the jaw forward and, with your thumb, press firmly against the chin. Ask them to keep pushing against your thumb and to say "I won't!" you replying "You will!"
2:15 Take a break. Discuss.
Grief (page 41)
3:1 Ask the explorer to imitate grief.
3:2 Ask them to look around the walls longingly and slowly, head motionless, stretching their vision to the sides, changing direction occasionally; to search slowly.
3:3 Ask them to sigh on each out-breath, making ooooh sound, keeping the head back.
3:4 Ask them to squeeze the eyes tight on each out-breath.
3:5 Give the explorer a pillow to hold; tell them to squeeze the pillow on each out-breath.
3:6 Ask them to roll over on their side and draw up their knees.
3:7 Encourage them to breathe out fully. Say, "don't breathe in," so that they linger at the end of the out-breath.
3:8 Massage the back of the neck gently.
3:9 Press gently along the sides of the spine each time the explorer breathes out.
To sum up, ask the explorer to sigh out with an ooooh sound—squeeze the eyes tight— squeeze a pillow—pause at the end of each out-breath—let the body fold forward—let the head fall back.
3:10 Ask the explorer to imitate sobbing from the chest with an aho-aho-aho-aho sound. Imitate with them.
3:11 Take their shoulders and gently rock them back and forth.
3:12 Make sure the explorer's mouth is open; press the cheeks in gently.
3:13 Make sure the neck "gives," head coming back.
3:14 Comfort the explorer gently but let them "hide" if necessary.
3:15 Ask them to "come back" when ready, make eye contact, discuss.
Joy (page 43)
4:1 Ask the explorer to stand and find a path for walking around the room.
4:2 Ask them to walk slowly and go with gravity.
4:3 Ask them to do the following, progressively: let the head hang forward—let the mouth hang open—keep sighing out, audibly—let the shoulders droop forward—let the arms hang down—let the chest collapse inward—let the pelvis come forward—walk more and more slowly.
Ask them to walk like this for a few minutes.
4:4 Ask them to do the following, progressively: begin to put a spring into the step—begin to bounce slightly as they walk—begin to straighten up the pelvis and lower trunk— begin to breathe in more—bring the shoulders back—pull up to full height—begin to swing arms and open hands—bring head up—smile—look around the room with wide open eyes—breathe fully in and out and say "Ha!" on each out-breath—do anything else that comes to mind—tell you how they are feeling.
4:5 Discuss.
 
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